Sometimes, saying “no” is the best answer ever.
As a business coach for over 20+ years, I’ve had the opportunity to work with all sorts of interesting people.
One would think that because someone wants to work with you that you should.
You couldn’t be more wrong.
If you value your peace and equanimity, trust your gut — those first impressions.
Impressions are like an inbuilt early warning system (EWS).
Believe the signals!
Here are some reasons why I’ve said “no” to potential clients
1. I don’t have the bandwidth to take on another project at the time.
2. It’s out of the scope of what I’m comfortable providing. Yes, I could provide what they want, but it’s not something I generally do and I don’t want to study up on one more thing.
3. It’s clearly not something I want to do — I just don’t like the type of work or coaching that they need.
4. The person talked over me, down to me, or was otherwise demeaning in any of the written communications leading up to my interviewing them or during the interview conversation itself. Red flags. They’re red for a reason folks!
5. I got a bad feeling within seconds of talking to someone.
Fun Fact: You actually form an impression of someone in less than 4 seconds. That’s all it takes for me.
I made the mistake of taking on a client — she’s very well-known in the her industry — even though I had a bad feeling on the call and especially after I hung up the phone.
I tried working with her.
It was a rolling disaster.
She was absolutely the worst communicator in the world.
She would disappear and then reappear. Then disappear again.
Beyond annoying and unprofessional, not to mention incredibly disrespectful of me and my time, I put a quick end to that chaos!
That was the end of that. Trust your gut.
If it doesn’t feel right, run far and run fast.
6. I notice signs of the person being a poor communicator. I’m “watching” behavior from the minute I receive their first email, to the time we actually get on the phone.
In time, everyone shows you who they are and how they are!
I notice the words, punctuation, how they style sentences, word choice, how long they take to get back to me, the type of reply they make, and, of course, it they follow instructions about filling out a short form and making the appt through my system. I also watch every word out of their mouth, language patterns, and the like. It’s fascinating what you can tell.
If you can get your hands on a writing sample, a quick analysis of a few key handwriting traits can underscore a yay or nay decision!
People show you who they are all the time.
Believe them the first time.
It will save you a lot of grief, anger, and resentment later!
Ready to upgrade your life, business, and future? Let’s connect at https://lnkd.in/eqSF3gs and see if we’re a good fit to work together!
For the Win Regards,
Tara Alexandra Kachaturoff